"Escape from wilderness" A must read from Charly Boy

A piece from Charly Boy. Please read...

Does anyone know how I really feel right now? So alone and empty, God! how I feel the pain. If you're in the wilderness like me, then you know it can be insane. Here my eyes are bleeding tears and my smiles are protecting my fears. I can't even go around and fake happy, because I’m in stagnation and it is hitting me from all direction. There is this disturbing feeling that time is passing me by, yet I’m paralyzed, I can't move and I can't think too far. At nights I can't sleep too easy, my heart is sore and my mind perpetually clustered with things that leave me shaking. Oh God! Why? I have prayed, I have fasted but nothing has changed, and it's almost a year now. My dreams are nothing but nightmares of all the negatives in this wilderness. What's happening to me? Look at me, I have always enjoyed comforting and giving directions to people in pain, right now I can't even save myself and I have refused to take my own pills. 

Na so life be? On top of all of this, I’m so f.....king broke it’s a shame. No! It's not just that I’m low in cash, but most importantly, it is about being in this state of  helplessness, I’m not too proud to ask anyone for  favour, but who will believe I need financial help when they have put me on such a high pedestal. Wow, is this a case of Grace to Grass? Who would guess I’m dying slowly when all they can see is my biceps and triceps.  I have always been the joy giver, I have put smiles on millions of faces and have inspired and motivated an army of youths, yet I can’t seem to talk myself out of this rot, out of this wilderness, hummmmm!!  Why won't this feeling of hopelessness leave me alone, I know I can do more than I’m doing for now, I know I deserve more. Too many times I have asked God, why me, why do I have to go through this wilderness. I am hardworking, forward looking, positive thinking, so why do I have to suffer like this. Is it the system or is it me, what the heck is this dark cloud that has come over me. I no longer look forward to tomorrow or getting out of my bed, because a new day comes without hope. Nothing seems to make sense anymore; nothing around me inspires me again. I feel like I’m vegetating, I feel as if I I’m glued to this limbo, with no hope of an escape. Now I’m hugging myself, not sharing myself with my loved ones because I am suddenly taking out my frustrations on the people around me. Oh! Lord I must take control of my life; again, I must escape from this wilderness.

 Does this sound a bit or a lot like your story right now? Are you in that dark place in your life, where everything more or less seems to be grinding to a halt and you don't know what to do? Well it happens to the best of us.  I have learnt that in all things, one should give thanks. Most of the time we are not entirely grateful for what we possess, because we always believe that we need more than we have right now. If this is the case, we will continue to need more. This circle will perpetuate as long as our mind believes it’s true. If we focus on what we have and not what we lack, we will always have enough, because it will always be enough. Yes it is hard to stay cool when things are not sitting right the way we would like in our lives. We are the one who loses in the end, if we lose the lesson. Shey you dey feel my yarn? In this wilderness I have learnt that a rich man is not someone who has the most, but someone who needs the least. Yesooooooo!!!!!  I’m sharing all this with you so I can feel lighter. We will always have problems, often tested by circumstances outside our control, but we certainly can control our reaction to those situations. 

We have the power because our inner world (cause) affects the influence we allow the outer world (effect) to have on us. Being in the wilderness is always a result of anxiety about the uncertain future. So stop and ask yourself. "What's the specific uncertainty that is causing me to be afraid" once you have identified that uncertainty, it is usually easier to simply accept its presence in your life, just for the time being. I know that life is about the journey and not the arrival. We don't need to arrive if we accept that we are already there. Not everyone woke up this morning and not everyone is going to bed tonight. Life has no guarantees; every minute we are living is a blessing that has to be experienced in the moment. It's not always easy, but it's always an option a choice. Your choice.

Pic of the day: IG of Police kisses his new wife on their wedding day

Inspector General of Police Mohammed Abubakar married Zarah Bunu in a 3-day wedding carnival that started last week Thursday and ended on Saturday. Seen above kissing Zarah  after tying the knot in Abuja. Is she going through her phone while being kissed? Lol

Andrea Giaccaglia shows off hot bikini body

Ghanaian Andrea Manuela Giaccaglia is Banky W's rumoured boo. Though the two have not been seen in public since July. Nice body!

Angelo Collins coming to Nigeria to see his boo, Beverly Osu

BBA housemates and lovebirds Angelo Collins and Beverly Osu will soon reunite. Angelo will be in Nigeria in a matter of days...where the two will embark on a press tour and hopefully continue from where they stopped. :-)

CAN gives El-Rufai 7 days to reveal source of Oritsejafor’s private jet

Controversial politician and former minister for the Federal Capital Terrotory, Mallam Nasir El Rufai, has been given a 7-day ultimatum by the Christian Association of Nigeria to reveal to Nigerians who gave the President of CAN, Pastor Ayo Oritsejafor, his private jet or risk having his dirty character exposed to the public. The Christian Association also asked El-Rufai to go for a Psychiatric test.

 

This is in response to the interview the former minister granted Saturday Sun dated 14th September where he called the CAN president a bigot and a pretender. El-Rufai said:

"The CAN president is not a religious leader. He is a religious pretender. From the statements he has made, he is a bigot. He is an ethnic irredentist and no one should take him serious. It is sad that such a person is the head of CAN. He can say whatever he wants to say but we know who he is working for, we know who gave him his private jet. so why should we worry about someone like that. He has zero credibility".

See CAN's response to El-Rufai's comments after the cut...

 

In a statement signed by Rev Emmanuel Dziggau and Elder Sunday Oibe, CAN said "The fact that he can abuse Jesus Christ in his tweets and Christians ignored him does not give him the impetus to make unguarded comments about Pastor Ayo Oritsejafor, who is the leader of the Christians in Nigeria"

 

They also noted that Christians respect other faiths and have never abused the Sultan of Sokoto or the President-General of the Nigerian Supreme Council for Islamic Affairs, Alhaji Muhammad Saad Abubakar 111 who is the leader of the Muslims in Nigeria.

UK singer Alexandra Burke in Lagos for Glo X-Factor

The British singer and song-writer won UK's X-Factor in 2008. She's in Lagos to perform at the grand finale of Glo X Factor taking place tomorrow at Dreams Studios in Ogba, Ikeja.

Nollywood Actor Osita Iheme (PawPaw) Displays Patroitism

 

Pawpaw as the Nollywood actor and one of the prime movers of African Interest Initiative Movement (AIIM), Osita Iheme,MFR is called has joined forces with the Power Holding Company of Nigeria, PHCN, as he calls on Nigerians to be vigilant and protect power installations. The diminutive actor, Pawpaw made this call against the backdrop of the alarming rate at which power cables and installations are being vandalised on daily basis by citizens of this great nation. More after the break ...
In his campaign for Goodluck Jonathan, Iheme praised the doggedness of the President Goodluck Jonathan led administration in finding a lasting solution to the power sector. Hear him, “the sincerity of the GEJ led government in tackling the power sector is commendable. It is not yet Uhuru but we sincerely believe we will get there. That is why the African Interest Initiative Move (AIIM) is calling on Nigerians to reciprocate by watching over and protecting whatever the government installs to boost generation cum distribution of light in Nigeria. Well done, Osita. This is a worthy gesture worthy of emulation.

American Visa Lottery: Nigerians Are No Longer Eligible For 2015 US Visa Lottery Program

Wow...this is a very serious one o. These are the instructions stated on their website:

See the list of countries whose natives are eligible for the DV-2015 after the cut...

Kai...bad market...lol.

Public Service Announcement: Former Vice President Atiku Abubakar Is Now A Blogger

Naija's latest blogger

This is a screen grab of our dear former VP's blog called ''ATIKU My Thoughts And Opinions''

You can check it out HERE.

Welcome to the club sir!

Wow! Arik Flight En Route To London Makes Emergency Landing As Nigerian Woman Gives Birth On Board

Arik Air flight is in the news again and this time its not a stowaway teenager in the tyre compartment rather the aircraft served as a delivery center for a pregnant Nigerian woman.

The Arik Air flight with over 100 passengers en route to London Sunday was forced to make an emergency landing in Palmas, Spain, as a woman went into labour and gave birth while the aircraft was airborne.

The pilot was said to have requested the emergency landing on the advice of two doctors who were on board the aircraft and had helped the mother deliver the baby. After the birth of the child, the mother, whose identity has so far been withheld, was said to have experienced excessive hemorrhaging, necessitating the emergency landing.

At the time of this report, both mother and child were said to have been stable but were left behind in Palmas for monitoring by medical personnel, while the flight continued on its journey to London.

The airline is still trying to ascertain if the woman had presented a false medical report from her doctor on the true duration of her pregnancy or she had gone into premature labour while on board the flight.

Women with full term pregnancies are not allowed to travel by air, according to International Civil Aviation Organisation (ICAO) regulations. As such, intending pregnant passengers are required to present medical reports certifying that they are less than 32 weeks pregnant before they are allowed to fly.

A source said the airline was carrying out a full-scale investigation to ascertain the genuineness of the medical report presented by the woman. Arik Air’s management said yesterday that if it is discovered that the woman was given a false report to enable her fly, it would file a special complaint against the doctor who had issued the medical report to the Nigeria Medical Association (NMA) for endangering her life and that of the baby, as well that of other passengers on board the flight. 

THISDAY learnt that when the passenger went into labour, the cabin crew had asked that doctors on board the flight to identify themselves. Following the announcement, two of the passengers came forward, saying they were doctors and assisted in the delivery of the baby.

But the airline did not know whether the decision to make an emergency landing by the doctors was right, as it was not ascertained if the medical personnel were O&G doctors (obstetrics and gynaecology) who might have been better at handling the emergency birth.